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Are You My Friend?

From Walter Anderson's,
The Confidence Course

Number 225

1. You give me time.

 

2. You listen to me—and you listen without making me feel judged.

 

3. You’re quick to remind me that I have strengths.

 

4. You help me heal when I’m hurting.

5. You tell me the truth when it will help me; you don’t tell me the truth when it won’t help me.

6. You show me by your demeanor, tone, and smile that it’s important to you that I feel secure, comfortable, at ease.

7. You show me that you’re sorry when you hurt my feelings; you allow me to show you that I’m sorry when I hurt your feelings.

8. You don’t abuse me...ever. You make sure that I know you seek to protect me.

 

9. You make small surprises for me.

 

10. You find words that support the best that is in me.

 

11. You let me cry when I need to.

 

12. You encourage me to tell the truth to you and to admit when I’m afraid.